I'd like to day that I've forgiven him, but I think that I haven't really acknowledged what he did to me enough to forgive. I answered "I don't know," I don't hold anger toward him, but that's not the same as forgiveness. I think I need to place blame on him first, then I can truly forgive.

I didn't "disclose" until I was 23, sitting in a police interrogation room and they specifically asked me about specific instances. Even then, I gave a lot of half-answers. I think it's better to disclose if and when you're ready; that first time disclosing was so traumatic that it's made talking ...