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by elephant
Wed Apr 05, 2023 9:22 am
Forum: Notice Board
Topic: HAVOCA - Negative Feedback
Replies: 51
Views: 10138

Re: HAVOCA - Negative Feedback

I think it is very sad when someone joins a support site such as havoca and then feels a lack of support, understanding, empathy etc. if everyone of us could really check our words before responding and be sure that we are being as kind as possible then this may not happen again. I was desperate whe...
by elephant
Wed Feb 01, 2023 6:59 pm
Forum: Notice Board
Topic: RESULTS - Member of the Year 2022 - RESULTS
Replies: 26
Views: 6960

Re: RESULTS - Member of the Year 2022 - RESULTS

Many congratulations to Divine, very well deserved too.
Three worthy runners up and a heartwarming mention for Sid. Today is a good day xxxxxxx
by elephant
Mon Jan 30, 2023 11:29 pm
Forum: Notice Board
Topic: Member of the Year 2022
Replies: 34
Views: 10761

Re: Member of the Year 2022

Just for the record..... It's elephant with a lower case 'e'. !!!!!!!
by elephant
Fri Jan 20, 2023 10:57 pm
Forum: Notice Board
Topic: Member of the Year 2022
Replies: 34
Views: 10761

Re: Member of the Year 2022

I see your point of view but I also feel that this member of the year award gives us all a chance to think about who has meant the most to us as individuals. Surely it's a bit of fun too on a site that brings victims together. The world can feel like a very dark place at times so surely this just br...
by elephant
Wed Feb 03, 2021 10:50 pm
Forum: Notice Board
Topic: RESULTS - Member of the Year 2020
Replies: 17
Views: 11218

Re: RESULTS - Member of the Year 2020

Many many many congratulations to two heroes of havoca. Life was great when I heard from act normal , then Stephen came along and made things greater. Xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
by elephant
Sun Jun 23, 2019 11:34 pm
Forum: Poll of the Week
Topic: Poll - Inner Child
Replies: 15
Views: 18028

Re: Poll - Inner Child

I love my inner child so much
by elephant
Tue Apr 16, 2019 3:15 pm
Forum: Poll of the Week
Topic: Poll - Forgiveness
Replies: 114
Views: 95449

Re: Poll - Forgiveness

I will never forgive my dad. I went to him for help and he let me down incredibly badly. The abuse was sustained over a very long period and my thought processes became totally disjointed. I am still trying to process things more than 40 years later. He was cruel in so many ways and used me as his p...
by elephant
Sat Apr 06, 2019 1:17 am
Forum: Poll of the Week
Topic: Poll - Which group best describes you?
Replies: 22
Views: 17259

Re: Poll - Which group best describes you?

I just selected Survivor because I am far better than I have been and feel able to help others as well as myself. I have a very supportive wife and some fantastic support from friends at havoca.
by elephant
Fri Feb 01, 2019 5:31 pm
Forum: Poll of the Week
Topic: Poll - How do you use the forum?
Replies: 13
Views: 12177

Re: Poll - How do you use the forum?

I am an erratic and chaotic user of Havoca. My moods dictate the way I decide on what to do on the site. Sometimes I feel positive and so go straight to the Introductions and respond to new users with a cheerful 'hello and welcome'. My wording is different for every new user to make me seem more int...
by elephant
Fri Nov 23, 2018 2:12 am
Forum: Poll of the Week
Topic: Poll - How old were you when you first disclosed?
Replies: 28
Views: 26128

Re: Poll - How old were you when you first disclosed?

My disclosure was my big mistake. Sorry to anyone that has already read this elsewhere on the site. I disclosed at aged 6 and then got abused by the person I had disclosed to (my bloody dad). My next disclosure ( in a face to face situation) was around a month ago, at aged 58. I have hidden my secre...

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