Thanks, Jamie

Hi ashridge_mac,

Thank you for your comment. You've put into words things I've struggled to verbalise!


Specific problems need to be addressed, but there's nothing good about wallowing in general self-doubt and self-blame, when the overall atmosphere is lovely.

It's good to be specific and ...

I didn't get the feeling it's about a specific person, [mention]pondbug[/mention].

But I, too, read this and thought 'Is it Moi?'

I agree it's sometimes important to say something when we see things we think are thoughtless, disrespectful or unkind - But sometimes it's also important to remember we don't have to engage. If something makes you anxious, it's fine to just ignore or not read. Sometimes there may be something ...

Jokes aside, not acting in a destructive manner in response to provocation is wise, but letting provocations go by can sour the atmosphere . I called out the nasty behavior of a member, which I know was appreciated by many, and I think it had a positive effect on that member's behavior, at least ...