I have to agree with you Jellybean.

Its a very interesting topic, what you say makes sense to me. My ponderings are very idealistic, and i'm the type of person who could feel one thing one day and then feel something completely different the next. (my partner will vouch for this. lol)
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My first initial response to this question was "NO WAY!!!". There is no way on the earth that i could forgive them!

Then after an awful lot of thinking about this I turned the question on it's head and asked myself
"What would I need to do to make me forgive my abusers"?

Then after a lot more ...